The 5 Love Languages of Children: The Secret to Loving Children Effectively
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- Author：Gary Chapman
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Summary
More than 1 million sold！ You know you love your child。 But how can you show it so they really feel loved？ The #1 New York Times bestselling The 5 Love Languages® has helped millions of couples learn the secret to building a love that lasts。 Now discover how to speak your child’s love language and make them feel loved in a way they understand。 Dr。 Gary Chapman and Dr。 Ross Campbell help you:
Discover your child’s love language
Understand the link between successful learning and the love languages
See how the love languages can help you discipline more effectively
Build a foundation of unconditional love for your child
Plus: Find dozens of tips for practical ways to speak your child’s love language。 Discover your child's primary language， then speak it， and you will be on your way to a stronger relationship and seeing your child flourish。
For a free online study guide， visit 5lovelanguages。com
Discover your child’s love language
Understand the link between successful learning and the love languages
See how the love languages can help you discipline more effectively
Build a foundation of unconditional love for your child
Plus: Find dozens of tips for practical ways to speak your child’s love language。 Discover your child's primary language， then speak it， and you will be on your way to a stronger relationship and seeing your child flourish。
For a free online study guide， visit 5lovelanguages。com
Reviews
jkdze
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A gentle reminder that "all you need is love"。。 and an explanation about the different means we perceive it。 Inspiring for anyone seeking to improve their relationships not only with children but people in general。 A gentle reminder that "all you need is love"。。 and an explanation about the different means we perceive it。 Inspiring for anyone seeking to improve their relationships not only with children but people in general。 。。。more
Rita Arnst
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This should be on every parents' reading list。 This should be on every parents' reading list。 。。。more
Karine
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This is my book for 2021 about; a book in a different format than what you normally read （online audio）。
Adayla
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Technically， I read half of the book and then skimmed the rest。 Pretty repetitive but I have also heard of the love language concept before picking this up。 So maybe that was just me。Some parts are kind of laughable。 I don’t believe any of the kid quotes from the book are word-for-word out of a kid’s mouth。 I think they expanded on a kid’s short response if anything， and just tried to make it more thorough。 I did like the quotes though。 It’s good to take a second and try to imagine things from a Technically， I read half of the book and then skimmed the rest。 Pretty repetitive but I have also heard of the love language concept before picking this up。 So maybe that was just me。Some parts are kind of laughable。 I don’t believe any of the kid quotes from the book are word-for-word out of a kid’s mouth。 I think they expanded on a kid’s short response if anything， and just tried to make it more thorough。 I did like the quotes though。 It’s good to take a second and try to imagine things from a kid’s perspective。 （They are just written funny， like it’s by an adult is all haha）I like the main concept of trying to understand what makes your child feel most loved。 I think that’s something important to be aware of。 I don’t agree that just because a child has the primary love language of physical touch and didn’t get enough shoulder rubs as child would be the main reason why someone would grow up， turn to drugs， and overdose as a young adult。 Things are never that simple。 And I think using examples like that can turn people off from the concept of love languages and not take it seriously。 Sure， a couple more hugs could benefit just about anyone。 I just think the way they use examples can be a bit far fetched。 I liked asking my oldest kid （age 5） some of the questions。 It was interesting to see what he connects with love。 Overall， I think there are good points here。 It is something to be aware of and consider。 I also find some of their recommendations at the end of the chapters for each love language helpful。 I don’t believe it’s an all-encompassing manual on loving your kids but it is a helpful concept to know。 。。。more
Gabrielė|Kartu su knyga
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Nesu skaitanti daug tokio tipo knygų， bet karts nuo karto kažkokia patraukia vis mano dėmesį。 Apie šią tiek gerų atsiliepimų bei rekomendacijų teko girdėti。 Pamaniau， jog tikriausiai ne šiaip sau。 O kaip geriausia įsitikinti？ Perskaityti pačiai！ 🤭Šioje knygoje Garis Čapmanas bei jo kolega Rosas Kempbelas， kuris 37 metus dirbo psichiatrijos srityje， atskleidžia penkias meilės kalbas。 Tai tarsi kursai tėvams， kurių dėka jie gebės geriau suprasti savo vaikus， bei suteikti jiems tą meilės rūšį， kuri Nesu skaitanti daug tokio tipo knygų， bet karts nuo karto kažkokia patraukia vis mano dėmesį。 Apie šią tiek gerų atsiliepimų bei rekomendacijų teko girdėti。 Pamaniau， jog tikriausiai ne šiaip sau。 O kaip geriausia įsitikinti？ Perskaityti pačiai！ 🤭Šioje knygoje Garis Čapmanas bei jo kolega Rosas Kempbelas， kuris 37 metus dirbo psichiatrijos srityje， atskleidžia penkias meilės kalbas。 Tai tarsi kursai tėvams， kurių dėka jie gebės geriau suprasti savo vaikus， bei suteikti jiems tą meilės rūšį， kurios vaikai tikisi sulaukti iš savo tėvų。 Jei Jūsų vaiko emocijų rezervuaras bus pilnas， jis jausis saugus bei mylimas。 Bus daug lengviau jį drausminti ir lavinti， nei tada， kuomet rezervuaras baigia ištuštėti。"Kiekvienas vaikas turi emocijų rezervuarą - emocinio pajėgumo saugyklą， - iš kurios jis， tarsi kuro， semiasi stiprybės turtingomis iššūkių vaikystės ir paauglystės dienomis。 Kaip automobiliai juda tik dėl degalų kuro bake， taip ir mūsų vaikai varomi kuru iš savo emocijų "bako"。 Mes privalome pripilti kuro į vaikų emocijų bakus， idant jie galėtų veikto panaudodami visą savo potencialą。 "Nenoriu daug išsiplėsti， tačiau manau， jog verta pasakyti， jog norėčiau， kad kuo daugiau tėvų perskaitytų šią knygą ❤️ Tikrai puiki knyga tiek savo turiniu， tiek jo pateikimu。 Viskas konkrečiai bei aiškiai pateikta， jog papildomų klausimų net nekyla。 Išmokime savo vaikams suprantama meilės kalba pasakyti "aš myliu tave"。 。。。more
Alex Harker
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I was already familiar with the 5 love languages before reading this book， but having it explained in the context of kids was nice。 There were some really great ideas that I can apply in my parenting immediately。 Some of the advice was overly gendered in a really reductive way （boys are this way， girls are this way， etc。）， which is the main reason I lowered its rating。
Patti Webb
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No。 I can’t even with this。。。
Ahmed
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I would definitely recommend it to parents， parents-to-be and of course wannabe-parents。
SuKnyga
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Daug kam netinka skaitinyje rasti religinių prieskonių。 Man tas， nepatrugdė， to nėra per daug。 Skaitosi lengvai， šis bei tas pasikartoja。
Sean
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The idea of the "Five Love Languages" is an important insight， talking about five different ways that people tend to receive messages indicating that they are loved。 This book is based on Chapman's main book about the love languages， an attempt to talk about how the love languages manifest for children。I'm not sure that this topic required a book of its own。 The original topic of love languages also was a bit thin for a full book。 The core concept can be easily explained in a short Powerpoint de The idea of the "Five Love Languages" is an important insight， talking about five different ways that people tend to receive messages indicating that they are loved。 This book is based on Chapman's main book about the love languages， an attempt to talk about how the love languages manifest for children。I'm not sure that this topic required a book of its own。 The original topic of love languages also was a bit thin for a full book。 The core concept can be easily explained in a short Powerpoint deck。 The idea that kids also have the same love languages is a little obvious and could be expressed in a few sentences。"The Five Love Languages of Children" is also a little odd in the overtly Christian values that are randomly inserted throughout the book。 The general idea of love languages is an important psychological and sociological concept， but has nothing to do with organized religion。 The injection of specific Christian messages in this book felt heavy handed and unnecessary。 。。。more
Greta Bar
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Tebūnie mūsų vaikų meilės rezervuarai pilni！Tikrai yra ko pasimokyti， ką susivokti apie save ir savo vaikų mylėjimą， nors kartais tekstas sausas ir nuobodus。 Vis gi-verta paskaityti kiekvienai mamai/tėvui。
Alaina
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Great quick read！！！！
Jennifer
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Surprisingly not offensive in its attitudes， given that it’s a bit dated， written by men， and has a fair sprinkling of Christian religion。 YMMV though。 I don’t know that you can really build your whole parenting practice off of this theory， but it’s not bad advice。 Thanks to Kristen and Jolenta of “By the Book” for recommending this （indirectly） because I definitely would have looked it off otherwise。
Samantha Panikian
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A decent book with mostly helpful ideas and examples！ Took off 2 stars for the EXTREMELY heavy-handed Christianity and simplistic take on divorce， single parent families， and misogyny。
Janelle Deline
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This was very repetitive。 Maybe if I didn't already know the love languages it would have been more insightful This was very repetitive。 Maybe if I didn't already know the love languages it would have been more insightful 。。。more
Allie
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4 ⭐️ I loved this book with the perspective of children， even more than the original love languages book！ I definitely recommend as both a parent and a social worker。 My only critique is the lack of research and abundance of personal accolades， but regardless the idea of the love languages is so important and valuable！
Dawn Kozak
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An exceptional resource that occasionally gets repetitive。 I feel like every chapter repeated how important it is to speak all the love languages and to not use your child's primary love language in negative ways。 It makes the book a little wordy， but it's still a good one。 Well worth the read for any Christian parent or any non-Christian parent that isn't bothered by a couple Bible verses thrown in here and there。My biggest take away was the chapter "Anger and Love。" I am an introvert that stru An exceptional resource that occasionally gets repetitive。 I feel like every chapter repeated how important it is to speak all the love languages and to not use your child's primary love language in negative ways。 It makes the book a little wordy， but it's still a good one。 Well worth the read for any Christian parent or any non-Christian parent that isn't bothered by a couple Bible verses thrown in here and there。My biggest take away was the chapter "Anger and Love。" I am an introvert that struggles without adequate alone time， and also still fairly new to parenthood。 I've noticed over the past few months how easily I lose my temper， and it makes me sad to think that I communicate with my little daughter that way。 I definitely will be rereading and referring to that chapter often as I figure out how to manage and channel my own anger and underlying stress。 Parenting is hard， ya'll。 :P 。。。more
Aistė Pivoriūnienė
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Kaip mylėti vaikus， kad jie jaustųsi esą mylimi？ Atsakymus rasite čia。 Išties vertinga knyga， daug pavyzdžių ir praktinių patarimų。
Carolina Campoy
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I liked it。 There are some differences between the one for couples and this one。 The first being the examples， so now instead of marriages they use kids and parents。 Next， the list of ways in which we can fill our children’s emotional tanks and last， the section about emotional intelligence and learning （sadly it wasn’t as deep or complete as I expected）。 Overall a good book， I borrowed it from the public library。 I don’t think I’d buy it。
Emily
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This was again， another excellent read by Gary Chapman with the late co-author， Ross Campbell who was a professor of psychiatry and pediatrics。 My favorite takeaway from this book is that is whatever your child complains to you about the most， is typically reflective of what they’re deficient in， in terms of their love language。 So， if your child complains， “You never do fun stuff with us！” （even though you do plenty for them—-bake cookies， give cuddles， offer words of praise） perhaps you’re not This was again， another excellent read by Gary Chapman with the late co-author， Ross Campbell who was a professor of psychiatry and pediatrics。 My favorite takeaway from this book is that is whatever your child complains to you about the most， is typically reflective of what they’re deficient in， in terms of their love language。 So， if your child complains， “You never do fun stuff with us！” （even though you do plenty for them—-bake cookies， give cuddles， offer words of praise） perhaps you’re not speaking *their* love language （which would be quality time， in this example。） Obviously the 5 love languages are THE biggest takeaway but I was already familiar with them from reading the book for couples。 But having the book be specific to children was really helpful。I will say， there’s a new edition （I read the one written in the 90s） so if you happen to find the old edition pictured on this review， you may find a lot of talk that seems “outdated” because concerns of parents in the 90s were more focused on drugs and rebellion， whereas parents of today are （of course） concerned about those things but maybe also more so about internet and social media exposure + addiction to phones etc。That wasn’t really an issue for me as I knew the time period it was written in， but I could see some people finding the book outdated sounding because of that since drugs and rebellion （vandalism， stealing， running away） don’t seem to be as huge of an issue these days for the average family。 I’m sure the new version has more relevant sounding scenarios。 。。。more
Cody
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A really insightful concept that could be explained in a couple of pages instead of this book stuffed with hilariously bad examples of stories plucked from 1950s sitcoms。 All the examples reinforced the concepts by assuming a small child will succinctly assess their own love language by saying something to the effect of “I know my mom loves me because she spends lots of time with me。” The cowboy example involving a child named Buck spending time on the trail and behind the barn made me laugh out A really insightful concept that could be explained in a couple of pages instead of this book stuffed with hilariously bad examples of stories plucked from 1950s sitcoms。 All the examples reinforced the concepts by assuming a small child will succinctly assess their own love language by saying something to the effect of “I know my mom loves me because she spends lots of time with me。” The cowboy example involving a child named Buck spending time on the trail and behind the barn made me laugh out loud。 Once the authors finished talking about the love languages， they looked for ways to pad this book with other dubious advice and subtle hints that raising your children in the Christian church is the only way to ensure they turn out OK。 Another laugh out loud “example”: the story of the young girl using her anger for good by coordinating her classmates in a rebuttal against the teacher who constantly belittled Christianity and preachers （of course， the teacher realized the error of his ways as soon as the kids stood up to him）。Also， this book has been published in how many different editions？ And both the audiobook and 2012 paperback still list among the author Ross Chapman’s challenges in parenting “the birth of a profoundly r*****ed daughter”？？？ 。。。more
Carisa
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DNF audio version - There was so good parenting info， but the book just seemed to go on much longer than necessary 🤷🏻♀️
Sara Fukuda
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This book was lovely and helpful， but a little too formulaic。Considering your kids’ love language， and spending time trying to figure out what it is， while speaking all 5 languages to be sure and fill their love tank is necessary and extremely beneficial！ This book has good practical tips for doing so， and I’m very glad I read it。But it was too simple。 The author seemed to be saying that if you speak your child’s primary love language daily， they won’t have emotional or behavioral problems。 It j This book was lovely and helpful， but a little too formulaic。Considering your kids’ love language， and spending time trying to figure out what it is， while speaking all 5 languages to be sure and fill their love tank is necessary and extremely beneficial！ This book has good practical tips for doing so， and I’m very glad I read it。But it was too simple。 The author seemed to be saying that if you speak your child’s primary love language daily， they won’t have emotional or behavioral problems。 It just didn’t seem to account for sin or other hardships， despite the author being a Christian。 At the end there is a chapter on anger that I didn’t like， it was overly simplified and some of his family-wide scenarios where everyone is misbehaving and angry I did not agree that simply speaking each others love language to every member of the family was the solution。Still， even if other sin or hardships are going on， it is trie that lavishing ones family in love in the way they primarily prefer to receive love would be helpful and a lubricant to help work tward peace。So I would say what he has to say about love languages， good！ But what he has to say about emotions， hm not so good， go read “untangling emotions” for that。 。。。more
Inga Narijauskienė
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Puiki knyga， pristatanti skirtingas meilės kalbas ir mokanti jomis kalbėti。Svarbus dalykas: su savo vaikais reikėtų kalbėti visomis penkiomis meilės kalbomis - ir tam， kad jie jaustųsi mylimi， ir tam， kad patys mokėtų visomis jomis kalbėti。
Alesha Bishop
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While I enjoyed the original Five Love Languages book when I read it several years ago， by the time I got to chapter 9 in this one， I had to stop reading it。Firstly， the anecdotes and quotes from children in this book frequently sound fake。 Particularly the quotes， where I repeatedly found myself thinking， "Most kids that age don't speak like this。。。"Secondly， the level of sexism veering into misogyny and shaming that is leveled towards parents in this book is unacceptable to me。 I'm not even in While I enjoyed the original Five Love Languages book when I read it several years ago， by the time I got to chapter 9 in this one， I had to stop reading it。Firstly， the anecdotes and quotes from children in this book frequently sound fake。 Particularly the quotes， where I repeatedly found myself thinking， "Most kids that age don't speak like this。。。"Secondly， the level of sexism veering into misogyny and shaming that is leveled towards parents in this book is unacceptable to me。 I'm not even in （some of） the groups this is directed at and it was still insulting。 I can't imagine how some of my friends who do fall into those groups would feel at being told that because they didn't stay in an abusive marriage their children's emotional health and learning would be harmed *potentially irreparably。* That's a shameful thing to say in a book that is supposed to be intended to help parents。Finally， the author doesn't even get very basic behavioral concepts correct in the behavior modification/discipline chapter。 I've worked in the behavior field with children for over a decade and have a master's degree in the subject。 The definitions of positive/negative reinforcement and discipline are extremely basic concepts in my field and I know them well。 And the definitions and examples in this book， particularly for negative reinforcement and positive punishment， are quite simply entirely incorrect。 If these authors were unable to get these very basic behavioral concepts correct， then quite frankly they had no business publishing a book on the topic。 。。。more
Lair Rocha
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Thanks Chapman for this wonderful book！ It helps me a lot to remember what is essential！
Amal
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كـ مربي انصح بقراءته مفيد ويلامس القلب
Adiel Ciesielski
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Felt it had some very good insights and tips。 Gave me things to think about with my children and my interactions with them。 Definitely would recommend any parent at least skimming through this
رانيا سباق
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بدايتي مع مجال تربية الأطفال ❣️مؤمنة بأن الحُب هو البداية لحياة سعيدة أياً كان العمر ، فماذا إن كان صغيراً لا يعي شئ إلا تلك اللغة 。。 ما كانت القسوة و الضرب ، التجاهل و التثبيط ، المقارنات و الإفراط في التدليل إلا سُبل لشخصيات غير سوية نراها حالياً و كل تلك السُبل غير مقصودة فالحُب لأطفالنا فِطرى ، إذاً فالخطأ في توصيل تلك المحبة ، لذلك يُقدِم الكتاب لغات التواصل 。。 لغات الحب عددّهم الكاتب في （ التلامس الجسدي ، كلمات التشجيع ، الهدايا ، الخدمة ، قضاء الوقت معهم ） فلكل طفل لغة ، و لكل سن لغة علين بدايتي مع مجال تربية الأطفال ❣️مؤمنة بأن الحُب هو البداية لحياة سعيدة أياً كان العمر ، فماذا إن كان صغيراً لا يعي شئ إلا تلك اللغة 。。 ما كانت القسوة و الضرب ، التجاهل و التثبيط ، المقارنات و الإفراط في التدليل إلا سُبل لشخصيات غير سوية نراها حالياً و كل تلك السُبل غير مقصودة فالحُب لأطفالنا فِطرى ، إذاً فالخطأ في توصيل تلك المحبة ، لذلك يُقدِم الكتاب لغات التواصل 。。 لغات الحب عددّهم الكاتب في （ التلامس الجسدي ، كلمات التشجيع ، الهدايا ، الخدمة ، قضاء الوقت معهم ） فلكل طفل لغة ، و لكل سن لغة علينا أن نكتشفها ❤️ 。。。more
Joyce
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